I’m Nekkid
I'm a Blogger (1999 - 2008)Published August 3, 2008 at 17:21 17 Comments—– Disclaimer: This post may contain TMI – read at your own risk! —–
Something K1 and I have never had in our relationship is time alone – without children.
Traditionally, most duos have a nice furlough of lazy dating and cosy ‘couple time’ before their two-some eventually becomes a three-some. They have those sweet memories of sleeping late on the weekends, going out to dinner/bars/clubs/trips and on vacations with absolute freedom. Did you need a gallon of milk at 3 am? No problem, jump in the car and take your time, your honey’s waiting at home for you and (hopefully) isn’t screaming for attention.
If you’re one of those duos or former duos, I’m jealous.
K1 and I originally met in 1998. We became friends and started ‘dating’ in 2001 after I’d separated from my ex husband.
If you do the math, you’ll notice that I congratulated my son on his 8th birthday last week. Which means K1 and I have NEVER been a duo – we’ve always been a trio.
From time-to-time we’ve had a bit of child-free ‘us’ time. Usually that time involved babysitters and worrying about the baby being cared for by someone else’s less-capable hands. We’ve also had (some) summers and (some) holidays when The Kidlet got to spend time with his father and we had time to ourselves.
This summer we’ve had almost exactly one month of kid-free time… Bonus for us!
My son is old enough to spend most of the summer between three sets of grandparents in three different states*. Bonus for him!
So, I bet you’re wondering what all this has to do with the title of my post?
It’s five o’clock in the afternoon and I am sitting in front of my computer (in my livingroom, no less) naked, unkempt, and loving it. Earlier I did housekeeping in the buff and I’ve been sleeping every night without so much as a stich on me. Apparently the nudist in me has emerged.
But this nekkid-ness is coming to a quick end. The Kidlet gets home on Tuesday.
I don’t regret one ioda of my son or the fact that K1 and I have never experienced a period of time when it was ‘just us’… but I certainly value and emotionally hoard the times we do have to be nekkid in our space.
Am I still jealous of you duos and former duos? Yes, but I also got one thing you didn’t – an awesome life-partner who made my son and I into a trio.
While we did it a bit differently than you did, the time we get ‘alone’ together means a thousand percent more – knowing K1 and I only have a little bit of time to pretend we were the duo first (instead of my son and I) is amazingly valueable.
I don’t take a second of my nekkid freedom for granted.
*Yes, I am a mother who lets her young child fly on airplanes by himself and spend time away from home to see his grandparents all over the country. I’m OK with it even if you aren’t. If his father weren’t deployed on his 3rd tour in the middle east, The Kidlet would be with him probably doing the same thing.
Good for you! (Hopefully K1 has been participating, too!!)
We were a duo, and are now a trio. We like our trio time, even if the nekkidness is not as often. Kidlets make it worth it, I think.
http://rob.mdmonroes.com/s last blog post..Thankfulness in July
I’m sorta kinda almost jealous that you can even do the nekkid thing. I’m not good at it. I can’t stand having no clothes on. Me? I\’m sitting here all day in a bikini. It leaves little to the imagination. But I just can’t go without. Ugh, I need to get over my aversion to being nekkid….
Well, I suppose that little experiment wouldn’t have to be ALL bad…now if I could just find a willing participant in this experiment….haha
http://thanksgivingmom.wordpress.com‘s last blog post..Here’s the Password
And you aren’t on your Live channel.
::sigh::
;)
My mom and step-daddy got married when I was three. They have finally got their “honeymoon” period since my brother got married and moved out three years ago. They are loving it. I appreciate how hard it must have been between having a toddler in the beginnings of a relationship now, even though I didn’t as a kid.
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Enjoy every second of it! I\’m sure your son is having a great time visiting his grandparents!
BTW, did you hear how Commonwealth has closed?? I seem to remember they are the agency you used for your adoption. I remember I first came acrossed your website when I was searching for an agency and ended up signing up with them too.
http://xmjb.blogspot.com/s last blog post..FFF ~Daddy and Me~~
oops not sure what happened with my last comment on this thread, but it isn’t showing up.
Enjoy all your time naked and alone together!! I’m sure Alex has been having an awesome time with his Grandparents!!
BTW, Did you hear how Commonwealth has closed down?? I just saw it on a blog I read frequently. I remember when I was googling for my son’s adoption, I came across your website, and ended up signing up with the same agency you had used. (I’m pretty sure I have mentioned all that before too)
mandys last blog post..FFF ~Daddy and Me~~
Happy birthday!
@Rob -
“(Hopefully K1 has been participating, too!!)”
Oh, he was!!
K2
@Thanksgivingmom -
“I suppose that little experiment wouldn’t have to be ALL bad…now if I could just find a willing participant in this experiment….haha”
Willing participants are always welcome :) But being nekkid and alone (and comfortable) is always a good thing, too.
K2
@Bill -
“And you aren’t on your Live channel.”
LOL. Naw, I’m not there often, honestly (and never nekkid) :)
K2
@Tina -
“I appreciate how hard it must have been between having a toddler in the beginnings of a relationship now, even though I didn’t as a kid.”
I must admit, I’m looking forward to more freedom as my son grows, but I don’t want the time to go TOO fast…
K2
@Mandy -
“BTW, Did you hear how Commonwealth has closed down?? “
No, I hadn’t heard that until you mentioned it! I looked it up and you’re right. I’m so sad they’re closing, they are/were an awesome agency – especially being a non-profit organization.
K2
@estrange -
Thank you!! And I just got your package yesterday… I was so surprised and touched. I love those bath ball thingies, they are exactly what I would get for myself.
I sent you a @tweet but I dunno if you follow your Twitter account much.
K2
My husband and I also never had the two-ness. We’ve always been a five-some :) But now we’re a four-some, and one day… LOL!
We do take advantage of school days and such to just be the two of us, though I doubt I’ll ever clean house in the nude :)
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@Angela -
“My husband and I also never had the two-ness. We’ve always been a five-some :)”
Wow!!
K2
Good for you! I feel badly for couples who don\’t get that alone time. It\’s necessary! We are fortunate to send my son to my mother\’s house for a week around Christmas. My Grandmother is there too, so he gets ultra spoiled and we get to be couple instead of parents. How many days \’till Christmas?
http://lacostamom.blogspot.com/s last blog post..Sunday News That Didn’t Make the News
“I feel badly for couples who don\’t get that alone time.”
I sooooooooo NEED our alone time… whenever we get it.
K2